Some Other Stuff

May 19, 2017

A reminder for all of us: It’s okay to change our minds. It’s okay to see things differently than we did a decade ago, a year ago, or five minutes ago. It’s all right to realize and admit we were misinformed, bamboozled, sold a bill of goods, been the victim of bait and switch, placed our trust in the wrong hands, allowed our desperation and vulnerability to cloud our judgement, or simply had our heads up our asses and read everything wrong. It can happen to anyone.

Another reminder for all of us: When it happens to those we know, saying “I told you so” is far less kind than simply saying “I’m sorry you feel disappointed and betrayed.” Hugs help. Patronizing commentary and smug looks do not.

One last reminder for all of us: If we eat carrot cake for our evening meal, it’s not a lie to say we had “carrots and some other stuff” for dinner. This tidbit, though not related to the above paragraphs, just might come in handy someday, so keep it in mind. Please note that the same truthful reporting method can be applied to other meals: cookies for breakfast are “eggs and some other stuff,” loaded chicken nachos for lunch are “chicken, veggies, and some other stuff,” and a fresh from the stove bowl of chocolate pudding with sliced bananas and whipped cream before bed is “a banana, warm milk and some other stuff.” Please don’t misunderstand—I didn’t have carrot cake, cookies, loaded chicken nachos, or pudding today. I had berries, beans, tomatoes, and grapes. And some other stuff.

Warmly,
Beth
 
 
 

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12 Comments

  1. Reply

    Jul

    🙂 had to giggle thanks Beth how cute!

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      Beth

      🙂

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    Taina

    I LOVED this! But then again, I live all your “stuff” (I truly do)! It seems you looked into my heart, saw me standing there in the background and brought me to the forefront with a warm hug. Thank you for this!

    Your words of wisdom will definitely be applied! Especially to my mom…the 1957 Home Ec major! Love you Beth!

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      Beth

      I think there are a host of people standing in that same background right now, Tai, and I think many are uncomfortable to move to the forefront, to use their voices again. I hope they do and that their fears of being ridiculed, lectured, or blamed are unfounded. I hope there are plenty of warm hugs for everyone. I believe there are.

      Love you right back.

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    Malcolm R. Campbell

    That “other stuff” idea covers a lot of “crimes.” However, by noon, I might not agree with this.

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      Beth

      🙂

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    Deborah

    Why and when did we become a society of “hedgers”? If I are cake, I should say I ate cake. There should be no fear in telling the truth. Simply living our lives as we want, but we are in a world full of experts on everything, there are handfuls of books telling us what is right and wrong, what to do and not do and who to do it with. We’ve become a society of codependent individuals and we haven’t even realized it. When did we stop believing in ourselves, eating that cake, or not, and believing that what we want and think is okay?

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      Beth

      Oh, I agree with you and you know me Deb, I’m fully anti-guilt. My policy on food is pretty much “love your veggies, love your cake,” and my policy on life is pretty much “be unapologetically who you really are.”

      The first two paragraphs are something I think some people need to hear and feel right now. I’ve had some private conversations with people who have been rethinking what they believed not long ago. Some expressed surprise that things are not at all what they expected, some are angry, and a few have looked back and wondered how they could have misinterpreted what now, in retrospect, seems so clear to them. One person described it as feeling as though she’s coming out of post-surgical medication, the fog clearing and things that felt dreamlike are coming into focus. What struck me most is that multiple people expressed concern about how others might react to their change of heart, especially those with whom they’ve previously disagreed, so they’ve remained quiet. I hope their fears are unfounded, that we all remember that we too have once believed things that we no longer do. I hope people are met with kindness.

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    Laurie Wong

    Loved this Beth! Big hugs

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      Beth

      Thanks, Laurie! It’s so good to see you here (and anywhere!). 🙂

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    Angela Myers

    Commenting on the first part of your blog: Can’t remember who said it, but I firmly believe it. To paraphrase: “If you have all the same opinions at seventy that you had at twenty, you’ve wasted fifty years.”
    Commenting on the second part: I just had a little bit of milk for a snack. It’s nobody else’s business that it contained sugar and cocoa. 🙂

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      Beth

      I completely agree. Unless we’ve closed our minds and hearts, I can’t imagine how we could go through life looking at life exactly the same year after year. Oh, and I had a little of that same milk just a little while ago. Mine was heated up and sipped from my favorite mug. 🙂

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