I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You

October 11, 2016

When I first heard of ho’oponopono quite a few years ago, I couldn’t quite comprehend it so I did what we all tend to do when we don’t understand something—I dismissed it as nonsense. Still, every now and then it would find its way into my life and each time, I felt an increased connection to its truth. I’ve always believed that we create our own reality and that we are 100% responsible for the lives we live. What I didn’t get in my first few meetings with ho’oponopono is that at its core, it’s the meshing of those two truths. When I finally put it together I thought of course.

For those of you unfamiliar with ho’oponopono, I offer a quick, simplistic intro. It could take a stack of thick books (and there are plenty to choose from, should you want to read up) to get into every nuance, but here’s the basic idea: Our reality includes everything and everyone we see, hear, and know of. Because we are the creators of all we see, hear, and know of, we can heal our reality by cleaning and clearing ourselves. By healing whatever it is in us that created the ‘outward’ problem. How do we do this? Simple, really (though until it felt simple to me it seemed untrue, impossible, and full-out crazy).

First, we must acknowledge that we have created all that we see. Everything. Taking credit for the good stuff is pretty easy, but it’s equally true that we create the things, situations, and issues that disgust us and make us angry. Politicians, anyone? Yep, even them. It’s okay, breathe. It gets better.

Step two involves looking at what within us created what we see/experience but don’t like. We don’t have to consciously find the answer, but we do need to pose the question, which is really just a confirmation of our part in the creation of whatever we see ‘out there.’ Hint: there is no ‘out there.’

Finally, we clean and clear ourselves. How do we do this? We repeat the following, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.” If this is new to you, you might be ready about now to click the little x in the upper righthand corner of this page and write me off as a nutjob. You’ve stuck it out this long, so give me another minute, okay?

When we repeat the words—with feeling—we are not saying them to the object of the perceived problem (we’re not trying to ‘fix’ the person/situation), nor are we directing them at ourselves (we’re not here to beat ourselves up) . We are simply opening ourselves to being cleared of whatever it is in us that brought the undesired situation/issue/person into our reality. And here’s the weird thing (okay, it might have already been weird until now, but this is the really weird thing)—the ‘outward’ issue heals as we heal. Honest to blog. There is no out there.

The above paragraphs barely touch on ho’oponopono. I hope they’re enough to make you want to learn more. Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice, but the work of Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, a Hawaiian therapist, brought it to the masses. Though Dr. Len has successfully utilized the practice of ho’oponopono in many situations, his most well-known and retold experience involved him healing an entire ward of criminally insane patients without meeting any of them. Yeah, I know. I thought the same thing. Check it out for yourself.

Before we part, will you do something? Close your eyes and think of the people and situations in your life that bring you joy. Count your blessings. Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Okay, now think of how you’ve brought those blessings into your life—your reality—and how you keep them there. Nurturing and attentive focus? That’s likely the case most of the time, but not always, right? Sometimes you can’t quite put your finger on the hows and whys of your blessings, yet there they are. The same goes for the less joyful stuff. It’s all up to you and within you. Hold onto the good stuff, clean and clear the rest. You deserve peace and happiness. Give yourself those gifts and in doing so, you’ll make the world a better place.

Damn, you’re awesome.





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    Thank you for sharing this with us Beth.

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      I hope you find it useful! Oh, and it’s SO good to see you!

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    Amy McMunn

    How is it that you are so wise?

    Every time I read this blog, I feel as though you are speaking to me. This particular lesson will be a process for me, however, my eyes are open to what I need to do. Thank you!

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      Amy, I love that you feel a connection to what I write. You just made my day.

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    Jo Heroux

    I love how you organized these steps, if you will. Accepting responsibility for our realty is very hard to explain. I agree with all my ❤️ that there is no “out there”.
    I love you, even more, I love who you are.

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      It is hard to explain, Jo. I barely touched the surface, but I’m glad to know it felt clear to you. Sending you lots of love. ♥

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    Malcolm Campbell

    I’ve come across this most often when studying Huna and find that it works the best (for me) within its context, that is to say, by those who are generally compatible with Huna’s basic tenets.


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      I agree, Malcolm. Funny that you mention Huna. I have a notebook designated for idea for this blog, and Huna is one of the topics I’ve got slated for sometime down the line.

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      Thank you for always making the time to come by and read, Jul. You’re the best. ♥

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    Tammy Minnis

    I’m going to have to read up on this one.

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      It’s interesting. Sometimes it makes no sense and sometimes it makes perfect sense.

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